I'm Tired of Waiting

We are all waiting on God to change something in our lives. Waiting for our difficult situations to change. Waiting on the suffering in our lives to end. Waiting on that new job or car we've always wanted. Waiting on healing. Waiting on God to bring us our spouse. Waiting on God to fulfill His promises. We all are anxiously waiting for things to change and are usually in a state of being miserable until it happens. Why are we so ready for the change? Why is it so hard for us to wait on God? Because usually when we are waiting, we are uncomfortable. As a generation it is hard for us to wait, especially when we are uncomfortable,  because society has trained us to attain quick gratification in every situation. Want to lose weight? Do it in 30 days! Want that new car? Loan the money instead of saving for it! Dissatisfied with your job? Quit! You deserve better! Hungry? Don't cook. Go to the quickest fast food restaurant and get satisfied! These are the types of messages we see and hear everyday, and sadly this anxiousness has transcended over into our spiritual lives as well. We expect God to move on our behalf as quick as possible and when that doesn't happen, we become frustrated and sometimes even angry with God.

So how exactly should we act in our present situations, even if we feel we are uncomfortable or deserve better?

1. Learn to Be Content where God has you presently. In our present situations we find everything possible to complain about and constantly feel we deserve better than where we are. Each day we find the negative, instead of looking at all God has blessed us with. You may not be where YOU want to be at the moment, but have you ever wondered that maybe you are exactly where GOD wants you to be? Learn to accept where He has you now by........

            - Thanking Him everyday for everything He has placed around you now.

            - Ask God to show you why He has you where you are and what He is
               trying to teach you?

            - Wake up each day and speak over your situation with scripture.

            - Pray for peace and contentment where he has you now. 

            - Think about where you are now, and compare it to your past. Has God
               blessed you already?

Phillipians 4: 11-13

^"I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength."

  

2. Humble Yourself. Many times we are ungrateful in our situation because we feel we "deserve" better. I am not sure where we get this from, but you have to remember that you are a servant of Christ. Any servant of Christ has to suffer with Christ to become more like the image of God. But sometimes we forget that. We complain and moan about what we don't have an where we "think" we should be. If Christ himself, who is sitting at the right hand of God suffered, what makes you think that you won't? We are slaves for Christ. Also, maybe you are looking at your situation from the wrong light. Are you truly suffering, or is God just having you wait until the proper time of fulfillment? If God has not granted you what you desire yet, most likely you do not need it, or it just isn't time. 

1 Peter 5: 6-7

 ^"Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time."

 3. Look Outside of Your Self. In our times of needed change we tend to focus on self motive and self fulfillment. We are not here for ourselves but for others as well. God may have you placed exactly where you are for someone else. Maybe its a needed word that can only come from you? Maybe its a blessing that you will be able to bestow upon them? Maybe you are in the situation because God knows you can handle it and wants you to help someone else have victory in there's? Ask God who He wants you to minister to where you are now. Ask Him to show you His purpose and what He has planned for you to do.

4.Understand He Is Changing Your Character. God will do everything in His power to equip us for His mighty works. Just as fire is put to gold to take out all infirmities, God does the same with our tough situations to mold us into His image and prepare us for His purpose. It is always in our struggles that our true character comes out and conviction takes place. God has to purge some things out of your spirit and soul before we can move on to the next stage He has in our lives. Let him build your character. Let Him build your faith. You will come out a better person then you were before. I promise!

James 1: 2-4

 ^" Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."

 I know sometimes it can be so hard when we are uncomfortable. We want the situation to change so bad and want the healing to come as quick as possible. But please learn to be patient and trust God's timing. Every situation I have been through , when I came out, I was so much better than I was before. I began to understand God's process and learn to trust His way instead of my own. Now understand, as you are going through this , cry out to God. But instead of asking God to change the situation, ask Him to change YOU in the situation. Every time I did that, my complete perspective changed and I learned to be satisfied wherever He had me.  I soon realized that it wasn't the situations that were the issue, but it was the internal issues that needed fixing in me. 

God Bless

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So Your Single, Now What?

Being single, especially on Friday nights it seems, we  find ourselves pining for love and attention from that special someone. We see our friends going out on dates. The women walking up with their husbands hand in hand. The newlywed bride showing off her engaged ring and discuss wedding plans. The couples pictures on Facebook and Instagram. Everywhere we look. Everywhere we turn. We see love, and we ask ourselves "When will my turn come?" We feel as if we are being left out. As if we missed some special meeting where everyone found a mate but us. We go on each day wondering when the day will come that our prince will find us and give us our happily ever after. But what do we do until then? Are our lives nothing until our mate finds us? Do we mope around until he comes into our lives? No. But sometimes unconsciously our actions follow suit to this belief. Since we don't have the mate in our lives we reach out to other things , and unhealthy people and relationships to comfort that need for love. The most common things we do are......

We call or text that Ex that didn't give us what we needed then, and somehow we think they will be able to now.

We delve ourselves in food .

We go to every party, bar, or outing with the sole purpose of finding a man. Sadly, even sometimes church.

We go home and watch romantic comedies wishing it was us.

 We wake up each day acknowledging the fact that we are single, but in a negative light.

The list can go on and on.....

We all have done it! Heck, even I have. Whatever it may be we all have the habits we have picked up to supplement for what we feel we are missing. But have you ever thought about looking at your present situation as a blessing and not a curse? That maybe you aren't necessarily missing out on something, but actually in a place of enormous opportunity that you are taking for granted? Instead of waking up each day pining for a mate, look at all the things you can do that others cannot! Here are just a few.....

You can go to the movies and pick whatever movie you want and not share the popcorn!

You can wake up whenever you want to on the weekends, with no interruptions nor responsiblities!

You can go where you want, when you want without answering to anyone.

This is the perfect time to go for that dream job, adventure, or escape you've been wanting to do for years! You don't have any dependents, so you can make decisions based solely off  of what's best for you!

You can decide to have cereal for dinner and noone can complain about it!

The list can go on and on....

Every season God has given us a blessing. Take hold of it! There is blessings in being married and blessings in being single. As the old saying explains, you can decide to look at life with the glass half empty or the glass half full. You will not find happiness in a man. Joy comes from within, regardless of what situation or circumstances you are in. Find Joy in what God has given you now and live life! When the time is right that spouse will walk right into your life and will be a supplemental part of your life, not MAKE your life!

Here Are Some Things You Should Be Doing in Your Single Time....

1. Focus on improving yourself, instead of your writing up that list for your perfect man.
2. Learn how to find joy while being single.
3. Deepen your relationship with God. He will show you the true meaning of a loving , unconditional relationship.
4. Hang around those who are like minded, so you can stay on track with your purpose!
5. Stay active and involved! Since you are single you have a lot of free time to help others and organizations!

This is just a few to get you started!

Thank God for what He has given you now! 

 1 Corinthians 7: 32-35

"I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord"

Phillipians 4:12 

 "I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want."

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