5 Reasons Why You're Still Single
1. Intentions
2. Free Will
3. God's Plan
4. Testing of Faith
5. Jealous God
Intentions
In Genesis God saw that Adam was alone and he gave him Eve. He didn't want him to be alone and felt it was good to bring Adam a helpmate. Just like He saw Adam's needs, He sees yours as well. He hears you asking for a mate. He knows you long for companionship. But have you ever stopped and really wrote down why you desire a spouse? Read my Blog Post on : 5 Reasons Why Single Women Want A Man. Make sure that you are not looking for a spouse to fulfill needs that should be fulfilled by God. Also, do you want a spouse just because you are frustrated sexually? Or maybe you want a spouse because you want the ring and a wedding? Maybe you think a spouse coming into your life will resolve some issues in your life? Do you want a spouse to have someone take care of you? Whatever your intentions may be , make sure they are pure and of good reasoning. God knows our hearts. He knows exactly why you want a mate and if that is what's best for you. Take your reasoning to court with God and ask Him to reveal your heart and motives.
James 4:3
"When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures."
Free Will
Over and over again you hear people telling you that God will bring you a mate, or God has picked someone specifically for you. I have even heard people say that you and your spouse were made for each other in your mother's wombs, as if God picked you all to be together as He formed you. Something you have to remember is that God has given us FREE WILL. God does not make us love each other nor does He make us love Him ; He gives us the choice. He cannot make someone fall in love with you. Now what God can do is place you in the presence of a Godly man. In the Bible when God paired others together he brought them in the presence of each other, but he didnt make them fall in love. When Boaz met Ruth he admired her and Ruth presented herself to Boaz. Boaz made the decision to accept Ruth, take her as his own, and marry her. God loves you and He does want the best for you. He can orchestrate the best possible scenario for you and a man to meet, but you both have to make the choice to love each other. That's whats so amazing about God. He wants to give you your desires. He wants to make you happy. He will do what He can on His part to bring you those desires, but when it comes to our hearts, He cannot control. Its not that He is incapable of doing so, for God is all powerful. But He gives us choices. If God wanted to force us to love, He would make us love Him. But He doesnt want that. He wants us to love Him FREELY. Don't you want the same from your future spouse?
Deuteronomy 30:19
"This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live"
God Has A Plan
God always has an ultimate plan for our lives. He gives us a choice to accept His, or try and seek our own way. Of course, His plan is best. The calling He has over your life has a specific purpose on this Earth and He will guide your every footstep along the way. Sometimes in that plan, finding a spouse is nowhere in the plan, or years down the line. He knows you better than you know yourself and He knows when it's the best time to place a mate in your life. You may not be ready yet to have a spouse. Maybe it will be a distraction? Maybe He has a purpose for you to fulfill before you meet someone? Regardless of what the plan may be, are you willing to accept His plan over yours? Seek God and ask Him to show you His will for your life in this season. Ask Him to help you accept His will and trust that He knows what is best for you. Don't worry, He will make sure to carry you through the entire process. He will never give His children anything they cannot bear without His strength, support, and love.
Provers 19:21
"Many plans in the man's mind, but God's will stand"
The Testing of Your Faith
When you ask for anything from God there is always a period of waiting. Waiting on God is a struggle for so many people. We are so used to having quick access to the pleasures of this world and it has made it a struggle for us to wait on fulfillment. Though there are changes in this Earth, God never changes. He still requires us to wait, just as He did of those in the Bible. God has us wait for multiple reasons:
1. The testing of our Faith.
2. To build our Character.
3. To teach us to Perservere
4. To teach us Patience.
5. To remind us of the character of God.
James 1:2-4
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."
Jealous God
God wants you to love Him above all other people and things. You are here for His purpose and His glory. He wants your total love and dedication to Him. He knows why you want a spouse, and also if bringing a spouse in your life will distract you. He wants to know that your love for Him won't dwindle because a man has entered your life. Many single women will seek God wholeheartedly for the sole purpose of God blessing them with a spouse. Everything they do is with a purpose of finding a man. They serve the community in hopes that a man will see their efforts and think highly of them. They sing in the choir solely because the director is attractive and they hope to grab their attention. The schemes are limitless. Know that God sees this and will not bless efforts that are not pure. He wants you to seek Him because you love Him. He wants you to show love to others because you love Him. He wants you to serve others because you love Him. Just like you wouldn't want someone to do things for you just to get something, God doesn't want that treatment either. He wants your love for Him to be pure, not expecting anything but love in return.
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