Being a single woman can be riveting , but also extremely challenging. We are taught to fend for ourselves, but at the same time reminded to still be a lady. We are told to know how to change a tire, pay our bills, and that we don't need a man to start living a fulfilled life. We have taken hold of the single life, but at the same time, many of us desire to get married and have our long awaited King take his Queen. But the Queen has been in the castle by herself for so long that she has forgotten how to make room for her King. We have become accustomed to the single life and have been deemed independent. Oh, don't we just love that word! During this time of being single, we have become so dependent on ourselves that we find it hard to adjust when a man enters our lives and we try to still keep the control. We try to keep control of our lives, the relationship, and our mate. We have a hard time letting go of the Independent title and make some common mistakes that cause men to feel as if we don't need them. Well here are some quick Do's and Don'ts for the single women who desire to one day be a potential wife, and also for those who are presently on their way to becoming a wife.
This is a Sneak Peak of my book Single to Married!
DO'S AND DON'T S
- Do not pursue the man or the relationship. Let him lead. If you start pursuing and leading now, you will ALWAYS lead. Step back and let a man be a man.
- Do not belittle him. Yes, you may have more degrees than him. Yes, you may even know more than he does. But is it worth hurting his pride? No.
- Do not embarrass him in public. Many women tend to correct their spouses, argue, and confront them in front of others. This is a big no no. Even if he is wrong about something, wait until you all are private and bring it up.
- Do not talk to him as if he is a child. You are not his mother, you are his wife.
- Do not bring up past issues or forgiven actions. You said you forgave him, so don’t bring it up. Constantly reminding him of his wrongdoings will slowly break down the relationship.
- Don’t push him to change. That is God’s job. Bring up your concerns , but afterwards, pray and leave the rest up to God.
- Let him be a gentleman. Too often men try to open doors for us, or carry our things, and we say, “Oh, I got it.” Don’t do that. Let him take care of you.
- Give him time to take care of what you have asked of him. Nagging doesn’t make him move faster, trust me on this!
- Show him respect in your speech and actions. Men often reveal that they don't feel respected by their spouses.
- Be loving, supportive, encouraging, and his best friend. Men truly just want support and want to feel their mate has their back.
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