How to Separate The Boy vs. The Man : 7 Signs You Are Dating a Boy

In the dating world you will meet multiple guys in different areas of your life .Whether at school, your job, or church you will most likely meet a guy that you are interested in. They all have a level of attractiveness, but as we all know, if the internal isn't together then the other aspects of the relationship will crumble as well. One thing I have found to be the most important is their MATURITY. Sometimes you won't notice their level of maturity in the beginning. It usually takes a couple of conversations, dates and situations to arise, before you are able to see who they truly are. If you are a mature woman, wanting a mature man for a relationship, you need to be able to pick out the boys from the men.

Here are some things to look out for to see if your guy is right for the picking!

1. His Greetings are "What's Up" vs "Good morning, How are you?"
       - I know this may seem trivial. But I have witnessed this for myself with guys I have dated. When a man is mature and truly wants to lead the relationship, it won't be a simple "What's up" greeting. He will ask "How are you?"....."How is your day going?" He will ask about that meeting you discussed with him the day before. He will pay attention to your patterns of the day and get updates about them. If there is a simple "What's Up" , he needs to put in more effort with you to have a real conversation. He also needs to put more effort in dating ideas. Netflix & Chill IS NOT A DATE. Boy bye!

2. He Doesn't Express His Feelings around other Male Friends
      - When guys are younger, they tend to still feel the need to stay "hard" around their friends. They feel it is showing a sign of weakness by expressing feelings towards you around them, or showing you affection. A Man will have no issue with doing this. He is mature enough to not care about what his male counterparts think and is proud to show you affection whether in public or private. If he is still concerned about his "homies" then let him stay hooked up to his "homies."

3.  He Avoids Serious Conversations
       - When a guy is immature he will not know how to handle serious conversations. Whether it's about the relationship, or just a simple dispute, he will try to avoid the "talk" and possibly even victimize himself in the matter. If he is a mature man, he will respect your feelings towards the situation and own up to his part. He will do whatever it takes to allow you to express your feelings so you won't be left in anguish. I have experienced this for myself. A real man won't leave you hanging for days knowing you have unresolved issues.

4. He Doesn't Pay Attention to You
       - A man understands the importance of paying attention to the details of your life. He will notice your favorite color. He will remember your birthday. He will remember your siblings names. Whatever you can think of, he will remember it. He understands that to truly pursue a woman he has to study her. A boy will pay attention to himself and what he can get out of the relationship.

5. He Doesn't Provide for You
       - Now when I say provide, this doesn't always pertain to money. It is in a man's nature to want to provide for a woman he loves and cares about. When you bring up a problem you have, does he do whatever he can to help you with it? Does he provide you with things you need? Does he pay for date nights?

6. He Doesn't Protect You
       - Once again this is innate in a man. A man will naturally protect what he loves and cares about as well. When a man sees or hears of any threat towards you, he will do whatever he can to make sure you feel safe and secure.

7. His Actions Never Line up With His Words
      - Men are ALL about action. They will show you they love you before they actually say it. They will do something for you before they express words of affection. If a guy is always saying he loves you, doesn't want you to leave him, misses you, but he NEVER shows it, nor shows up.....time to keep it moving.

Bonus : If He gets offended by this Blog! Any man that knows he is doing what he is supposed to do, won't get offended by it =) #truth #lol

These are just a couple of highlights to see if you are dating a mature man. There are so many other things to look for but this will start you off!

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